Hi guys! My name is Kay Uimari, and I’m a mental health blogger at Rose Minded. I’m a strong advocate for the mental health community, and I love to spread awareness about mental health topics, and share support for those who need it. If you’d like to know more, you can see my About Me page!
Here are steps that are psychologically-proven to improve your self-image. Feel free to ask any questions, comment your thoughts, or express concerns in the comments below.
- Find your stressor, and overcome it.
Finding your stressor may take some time, because during your day you may not be actively acknowledging all the things that make you stressed, or distort your self-image. For some people, this could be the mirror, or the scale. These examples are often condemned in the body-positivity community, but I don’t think having an enemy with anyone or anything is going to solve any problems.
The first step in overcoming these stressors is discovering which people, places, and things cause you anxiety, or affect your self-image negatively. Then, you can evaluate why you are stressed or affected by that person or thing. You are in control of your self-image (although it hardly ever feels that way), and so take action for your well-being! Find positive ways to cope with your negative feelings, and don’t let people, places, or things determine your own self-image!
- Actively focus on self-love.
This may have been covered a little bit in the previous step, but this one is important! Self-love and self-image go hand-in-hand. How can you have a positive self-image if you don’t love yourself? Use self-care and healthy coping methods to increase your self-love (some tips on self-care can be found at Rose Minded!), and take up a hobby that isn’t too challenging, but will give you incentive to further your abilities and skills. This will give you an interest, and interests/hobbies give us a platform to succeed (and fail… which is a healthy part of the process).
- Build your confidence.
In order to build your confidence, you’ll need to self-report honestly how much confidence you currently possess. This is your starting point; low or high confidence will work as a starting point! One great resource I recommend for building confidence is this little book that boosts your confidence daily, without being repetitive or cheesy. You can check that book out here.
Another way to build your confidence is to speak to yourself positively, in your thoughts, in your conversations, and everywhere in between. This is a hard step admittedly, and will take some time. It may not feel natural at first, but you can’t give up! Confidence is a strong building block for a health self-image.
- Stop comparing yourself to others.
Have you ever heard of the saying, “comparison is the thief of joy?” I find it to be extremely true, and I also believe that comparison halts progress. If you’re trying to better your self-image, you are working towards progress! Everyone is on their own journey and has their own timeline to get to the destination and results.
Don’t compare yourself to others! This could discourage you, or also it could prevent you from growing more if you see yourself succeeding more than others. Keep this step in perspective, when you notice yourself comparing your progress to others’.
- Find your comfort zones, and destroy them.
What?? Destroying comfort zones seems like running away from your end-goal (improved self-image), but what it actually does is break you out of any unhealthy habits you may not have noticed, and forces you to re-evaluate your choices. Then, you can form new comfort zones! But be careful, you don’t ever want to get too comfortable, because this is not where progress takes place.
Thank you so much for checking out my psychologically proven steps to improve your self-image! If you’d like to check out my site, you can see it here. You can also contact me directly through my website, or through my Instagram. Good luck to everyone in their mental health journeys!