9 Effective Tactics to Staying Safe in College as a Woman
Yay, you’ve finally done it! You’ve graduated high school, moved out of your house, settled into your dorm, and started your classes. You’ve finally started to grow up and accomplish the dreams that you’ve had for yourself ever since you were a little girl. Being safe is probably the furthest thing from your mind right now- but you need to change that.
Too many unreported sexual assaults occur on college campuses and I don’t want that to happen to any of you. I care about your safety and that’s why I’ve created this guide for you! Save it, download it to your phone, or whatever you need to do to save this; whenever you’re going out, give this guide a glance over to make sure that you have yourself prepared for any situation that you may run into.
Get your own drink
Whenever you go out and party, always make sure that you get your own drink. Yeah, sure it’s super sweet when a guy offers to get your drink, but that kind gesture can also serve the opportunity for him to drug your drink, and we all know where that leads to. Even if it’s your trusted best girlfriend, decline her offer to get you a drink. While it may sound completely paranoid, don’t trust anybody with your safety. Always get your own drink- that way, you will know that NOTHING has gone into your drink.
Tell your friends and family where you are going
Even if you’re just running out to the convenience store, tell your friends and family where you are going. A simple text can make a HUGE difference if you ever do happen to go missing. Take that precaution and just shoot off a quick text to your close friends and family. You don’t have to text a whole group of fifteen people, but two or three people will suffice. Let them know where you are going and when you get back safely to your dorm. If you’re partying, let them know who’s house it’s at and let them know when you get home safe. If you decide on a last minute, make sure you tell them!
Never travel alone
Again, even if you’re just planning on going to the convenience store, bring a friend. The quote “there’s safety in numbers” truly does ring true. Predators will hunt down a single girl, rather than a group of them. One single female is a lot easier to fight against and hurt, rather than a whole group of women. Even if you only bring along one friend, it’s truly better than you traveling alone! This rule sets place in both day and night time- however, it is more important to travel in a group later at night, because predators use the dark as a blanket to hide their identity.
Keep a whistle on you (or an alarm on your phone)
If you are ever in a situation where you are seeing an assault happen, or if you are being assaulted, make as much noise as you possibly can. Carry a whistle around with you; if you (or someone else) is ever in danger, blow it. The point is is to make as much noise as you possibly can, in order to attract the attention of other people (and to scare away the attacker). If you think carrying a whistle is stupid, put an alarm app on your phone. If you’re close to your car, press your panick button. If all else fails, scream as loud as you possibly can. When I was little, I was taught to scream “fire” if a man was ever trying to kidnap me. It’s a word that will quickly grab other people’s attention. Air horns, a mobile siren, your car horn- any noise that you can make that’s super loud will suffice in this situation.
Carry a weapon
If you live on a campus that allows you to carry knives, then do it. However, that’s more than likely not the situation you are in.
- Pepper spray is a great weapon to carry around. You can spray it in your attacker’s eyes and you’ll be able to run away, as the pepper spray blinds them for several minutes. Not to mention, that it’s incredibly painful to get in your eyes, so they’ll let go of you to tend to their own pain. It’s $10 at WalMart for a medium sized bottle
- Your stiletto isn’t just for fashion. If someone is on top of you, reach down and take off your shoe. The stiletto is sharp enough that it will leave puncture wounds if you stab at someone with it
- If your school allows pocket knives, purchase a lipstick knife. It’s a nice that’s disguised as a tube of lipstick. You can flip off the cap and have a knife to slash at your attacker in a matter of seconds. You can also purchase stun guns and pepper spray that look like a tube of lipstick. You can find them on Amazon for less than $20.
- If you just happen to have a cup of steaming hot coffee (or any other hot beverage) in your hand, throw it on your attacker. We all know how it feels like to sip something that’s too hot and burn our lips, so imagine a whole cup of it being thrown on you!
- Use your car keys. If you feel unsafe, put your car key in between your fingers, so you look like your Wolverine. Stab and slash at anybody who happens to attack you.
Be aware of your surroundings
I know you probably want to check all of the latest updates on Twitter, see how many likes you got on your latest Instagram selfie, or listen to Drake’s newest album, but all of those things can wait until you get home safely. Put your phone way. Take out your headphones. Stop looking down at the ground. Always keep your eyes moving around, watching where other people are, or if they look suspicious. This leads us into our next tip.
Look people in the eye
Do not be shy when it comes to your safety. If you come off like a bitch, so what? Your safety is what matters. Whenever a man or any suspicious character is walking by you, look them in the eye. This conveys the message to them that you know where they are, that you are aware of your surroundings, and that you will not be victimized. Be confident when you walk; predators look for women who look weak. Weak women are easily overthrown and easy to hurt. Stand tall, lift your chin up, and look people in the eye.
Learn how to fight
What happens when you get attacked and you don’t have a weapon on you? There are five spots you can hit on ANY person, no matter their age, height, build, or sex. These are the five weak spots that will leave a good hurting on your attacker and they are:
- Eyes. Stick your finger in their eyes and press as hard as you can. Do whatever you can to hurt their eyes, even if that includes scratching. If you do happen to have a weapon, stick it in their eyes. Do not feel remorse for hurting them- just run.
- The groin- even if it is a female. Kick (or knee) as hard as you possibly can.
- Solar plexus- this is located right in the middle of the chest area, on both men and women. The solar plexus is a collection (plexus) of nerves that corresponds to the abdomen, all the way up the brain. Use your palm to strike them in this area and a wave of pain will radiate through their entire body. You can also kick or punch them in this area. Hitting the solar plexus will make it hard to breathe, as it knocks the wind out of people when they are hit in the solar plexus.
- The throat- have you ever been punched in the throat? I know I do it all the time when I’m pulling up my blankets. Whatever you can use, use it to hit your attacker in the throat. Hit them as hard as you can.
- Nose- hitting the nose causes your eyes to water up. This will cause several seconds of blindless to your attacker
Whenever you are hitting your attacker, hit them as hard as you possibly can. This is you life your are fighting for. Do not give in easy.
If you happened to be attacked from behind, stop supporting your weight. Let your legs give out and force your attacker to drag you. This is WAY more work your attacker is going to have to put in in order to attack you, which is not something that they count on. Once you do this, they’re more than likely to drop you, which will give you time to get away.
Kick, bite, scream, cut. Do whatever you can to get away.
If you happened to be in a situation where you are being robbed, allow yourself to be the victim in the sitaution.
Things that are not worth fighting for:
- Your car keys
- Your phone
- Your purse
- Your wallet
- Any jewelry
If the thief is demanding physical items, give it to them, but don’t make it easy. Throw the item as hard you can in the opposite direction and run AWAY from the direction you threw the object in. Materialistic items are replaceable. Your life is not.
Things that are worth fighting for:
- Your body
- Your life
Tip: Before you leave a store, make sure you have your car keys in hand, just so you aren’t fumbling with them while you’re at your car, which opens you up to the possibility to being attacked
Tip #2: Make sure that you put your wallet back in your purse before leaving the store! That way you aren’t focused on putting it back in your purse while you are walking out to your car.
If you feel unsafe, call the police. That’s what they’re there for!
If you don’t feel safe walking back home, as for a police car to give you a ride back to your home. If you don’t feel safe on a date, call a police car to escort you home. If you ever feel unsafe, call the police.
If you are being followed by a police car on a dark road, or a road that’s not heavily populated, don’t stop for them. Even if they have their lights on. Do.Not.Stop. There are so many unmarked police cars that are FAKE that have gotten many people killed; this is one of the newest ways for serial killers to prey on victims. You do not have to stop on a dark/unpopulated road even if it is a real police car.
If you are being followed by a police car (real or fake) on a dark/unpopulated road, here is what you do:
- Call #77 or 112 – this will connect you to the police immediately. From there, you can explain to the officer on the line your situation; they will also be able to tell you if the car behind you is a real police officer or a poser. You will not get in trouble for evading a police officer by doing this, but this is only for situations where you do not feel safe pulling over!
- Pull over when you are in a well-lighted, heavily populated area. Go to McDonalds, as they are always near by.
I hope you all are safe on your college adventures, but I also want you to have fun!