Thank you so much for coming back, my Queens!
Today I’m going to talk about the two things that girls never speak of: stretch marks and cellulite. I have them and I know you have them (don’t worry, it’ll be our little secret).
The real question is, is can I learn to love my skin’s imperfections? I know if I can, I know that you can too.
My skin is not perfect. Shoot, I’m not perfect (even though I think I am). I have stretch marks on my tummy, boobs, butt, under my arms, the back of my knees, my thighs, and my hips. When I’m feeling down about myself, I often feel like my entire body is covered in stretch marks!
I have cellulite on my butt and my thighs. When I’m feeling good about myself, I love to think that my cellulite is my body’s own type of braille, sending a personal secret message to the world.
I know my stretch marks are because of two things:
Both of my parents have stretch marks. No biggie! Stretch marks are genetically passed down, so even if you’re a thin girl, you’ll probably find a few stretch marks on your skin. But, no matter what size you are, you’ve most likely got them.
I grew very quickly; by the time I was in fourth grade, I was 5″8′. Crazy, right?! So, by the time I was in fourth grade, I already had hips and a chest on me. I remember looking down one day and seeing all these crazy lines across my boobs. At the young age I was, I really didn’t think much of it.
As I got into high school, I was so embarrassed to expose my body in the locker room. I was a Junior in high school and I had stretch marks everywhere. And whenever my eyes would glance over at another’s girls body, I would never see any. It made me feel so insecure about myself; I felt so insecure, I would often get dressed in the handicapped shower that was no longer in use.
So, can I learn to love my skin?
I can learn to love my skin’s imperfections, dark spots and scars included. I am so grateful to have skin to move around in. Even if my skin isn’t photoshop perfect, that doesn’t matter! I love my skin. Each stretch mark is like a lightning bolt, reminding me that I am an unstoppable force of nature. Because that’s what I am. That’s what we are.
Learning to love your skin is not going to be easy, babe. After so many years of waging wars on our bodies, completely changing your mindset is not going to be something that happens over night. I’m a totally body positive gal and I still have days where I struggle with accepting my tummy. But, we’re not perfect, so it’s okay to have those types of days. As long as you keep pushing to feel better about yourself, that’s all that matters.
Every morning, I like to stare at myself naked in the mirror. I stare at my naked body with an open mind, accepting all of my flaws and all of my perfections. After that, I like to look at my butt and shake it in the mirror, because it always makes me feel good to know that I have a butt that I’m happy with. Try it out! When you’re staring at your body, don’t think about all of the things that you would change. Think about all of the unique parts of your body and how they make you different from everybody else. Body accpetance comes first, self-love follows closely after.
How do you love your skin? What are some things you do to boost your self-love? Do you love your skin’s imperfections?
I love you all, my Queens!