Fat Girls Can’t Wear Shorts- A Body Positive Affirmation For Your Summer Body

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“Oh my God! Your thighs touch. Didn’t you know that boys don’t want to see fat thighs like yours? You shouldn’t be wearing shorts! It’s gross!”

Someone who I thought was a friend said that straight to my face. Flat out told me that my thighs were disgusting and that I should be hiding my body because boys don’t want to see a body like mine. The me that was less secure took that to heart and believed her. With my whole heart, I thought my body was disgusting; there wasn’t a day that passed by where I didn’t think my body was revolting. I had stretch marks in places other girls didn’t. My legs touch ALL the way down and there were so many girls in my school who didn’t have thighs that touched. Sometimes my shorts would be a little tight and it would make my belly pop out. Meanwhile, other girls are my school didn’t even have a stomach.

I was different.

And because I was different, I thought I was horrendously ugly.

What changed? I graduated high school and swore to myself that I was going to change my life around. I was going to learn how to love my body.

And so I did.

So, here’s to all the people who think my thighs are disgusting. Go ahead and take a good, long stare at them.

While you may not think they’re the prettiest thing in the world, I can certainly tell you they’re a lot more attractive than your personality ever will be.

My thighs touch and jiggle and wiggle when I walk. I have cellulite on my thighs and when I sit down, Russia probably wants to claim my thighs as new territory.

I know I have big thighs! But, I also know that my thighs are damn sexy. It doesn’t matter if anybody else thinks that are; all that matters is that I love every single jiggly inch of them.

I know I will never look like Beyonce or Nicki Minaj or Kylie Jenner; I will never have that picture perfect body. But, that doesn’t mean that I’m any less beautiful than they are.

And the same thing applies to you, my love.

I am so, so excited for summer. I’m so ready to start tanning outside in the warm sun, eat half a watermelon, and hear the chirping of the birds outside my bedroom window. Let’s skip spring and go straight to summer! What I’m most excited about though is shorts weather and bikini season. Every day, I’m falling more and more in love with my body. I remember so vividly last summer how I tried so hard to hide my body. I developed stretch marks on the back of my legs last year and all summer, I wore pants to hide them. Even during sweltering heat waves, I would wear clothes to hide my body.

For me, it wasn’t about comfort. For me, it was about hiding my body because I was so embarrassed about my imperfections. Fast forward a year and look at me! It’s not even March yet and I’m already in shorts. I refuse to hide my body any longer. I have stretch marks, cellulite, scars, and jiggly flesh. WHO CARES?! I’m a human being and all of those things are completely normal. They’re what make me unique and beautiful in my own way. I’m so pumped to be comfortable in my own body this summer. I am not on this earth to be a pretty thing to look at. And if you don’t think I’m pretty, so what? I know I’m absolutely stunning and it’s your loss if you don’t agree. My body is strong, unique, and beautiful in every single way. Shorts, crop tops, and bikinis, here I come!

For me, it wasn’t about comfort. For me, it was about hiding my body because I was so embarrassed about my imperfections. Fast forward a year and look at me! It’s not even March yet and I’m already in shorts. I refuse to hide my body any longer. I have stretch marks, cellulite, scars, and jiggly flesh. WHO CARES?! I’m a human being and all of those things are completely normal. They’re what make me unique and beautiful in my own way. I’m so pumped to be comfortable in my own body this summer. I am not on this earth to be a pretty thing to look at. And if you don’t think I’m pretty, so what? I know I’m absolutely stunning and it’s your loss if you don’t agree. My body is strong, unique, and beautiful in every single way. Shorts, crop tops, and bikinis, here I come!

My body shows that I’m well-fed and well taken care of. There are so many people in this world that are starving. I’m so blessed knowing that I have access to food and to be well-fed. I’m blessed to have a healthy body and a healthy mind.

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If nothing else, I hope you fall in love with yourself. Trust me, it isn’t going to be easy. There will be some days where you’re going to be so disgusted with yourself that you refuse to look in the mirror. There will be other days where you feel more beautiful than BeyoncĂ© and take a million selfies. You’re going to have your ups and your downs, even if you have completely fallen in love with yourself. Start your journey today and begin to fall in love with your body and who you are as a person. Your body is NORMAL. There is nothing “weird” or abnormal about your scars, stretch marks, jiggly flesh, or cellulite. It is NORMAL to be imperfect. That’s what makes you a human being! Once you fall in love with yourself, everything else will begin to fall into place.

 

Don’t value your body over your being. You are so much more than the number on the scale or the size of your jeans. Losing weight does not cure negative body image, just as happiness is not size specific. I refuse to sacrifice my mental health to have the “perfect” body. All bodies are perfect and all bodies are beautiful. It is not your job to look like the people in magazines. It is not your job to be “pretty”. You are good enough already and you do not need to lose any weight to prove your worth to the world.

Your life is so much deeper than that number on your scale. I promise you, there is nothing wrong with your body, but there is a LOT wrong with the messages which try to convince you otherwise. It’s going to take time and a lot of hard work, but I promise you, you will one day fall in love with yourself. đź’‹

 

I have a big belly and I’m proud of it. I have big thighs and I’m proud of them too.  The media constantly shames “fat” people, by displaying weight loss ads and beauty products that convey the message that fat people are unworthy of self-esteem and love from others; that only thin people have social lives and are happy with their bodies. Fat is not a bad word. I’m fat! Fat is a word you describe someone, just like you would use the word beautiful. It doesn’t matter if you’re thick or thin, but rather what you bring to this world. Your body, shape, age, and size do not decide your worth to the world. Your positive attitude and kindness make you a person who matters to this world. Stop focusing so much that number on the scale and status focusing on the number of people you’ve inspired in your lifetime. I have a big heart and that’s what makes me a valuable human being.
So, if you’re working on your summer body, you can stop. Stop stressing yourself out over your appearance. Life is so much deeper than that and way too many people never see past that. 
XOXO
Alizabeth

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